Wednesday, May 5, 2010

Wishcasting Wednesday - Rules

Today's Wishcasting Wednesday question from Jamie Ridler is quite thought provoking:

What rules do you wish to make or break?

I have been doing a lot of listening to New Thought teachers and reading books and articles that stress the importance of the story I tell myself as I am working on my recovery, which has led to a lot of listening to my inner dialogue - and can I just say that after that, it's no wonder I am prone to disabling depressions? Yikes! So my primary wish is to break the rules that are in my head that make it difficult for me to know and be the person I know that I was born to be. Perhaps that sounds a bit vague, but it is amazing how many "rules" I have in my head and in my heart about what I can and cannot be, do, say, or anything else.

I suppose the best examples are recent ones, and over the course of the last week or so my mom has been coming over to help me clean and organize. We've been working in the kitchen and dining area, and as we empty cupboards to change around their contents I hear things in my head like "why are you bothering? It won't stay this nice for more than a few days since you are a worse housekeeper than Grandma Grace" and "look at this mess! You are just not meant to have anything nice because you can't keep it that way!". Of course, there are excuses, too: "it got this way when I was so caught up in depression and illness" and my favorite "I'm not the only one in this house!". So my rules have included such things as: if I can't keep it perfect I don't deserve to have it, or even have "close enough"; it is all someone elses fault if it isn't "just right"; I'm never going to be able to do it "right" so I'm a failure before I start. What a lovely group of beliefs and rules to live by, right? No wonder I have issues with getting trapped in depressive cycles!

So I wish to break the rules of paralyzing perfectionism, self-doubt, shame and lack. I wish to replace them with the gentler and more loving "rules" of do/say/be it anyway, self-love, joy and abundance. I wish to live by the rules of who and what I was born to be and not what has been imposed from outside to make me into something I am not.

20 comments:

Jennifer said...

Oh dear, oh dear....
I could've written this post myself.

As Sulwyn wishes for herself, so do I also wish for her (and MYSELF) with all my heart!

With you, Dear!

Fringe Collective Artistic Studios said...

"Paralyzing perfectionism"
I know this trait. Very self distructive. Takes alot of time too.

As you wish for self, I wish for you also.

Anna said...

As Sulwyn wishes for herself, so I wish for her also

Lis said...

wow - you are doing the very deep work here ... I applaud your courage in choosing to examine and dismantle notions that do not define you ... isn't it amazing to come to the bottom of a concept and ask "do I really believe this?" and then toss that idea/rule/notion onto the trash heap!

As Sulwyn wishes for herself, so I wish for her also.

" M " said...

absolutely ! Just brake away , I can relate big time !

As Sulwyn wishes for herself , so wish for her also! : P

Sarah said...

As Sulwyn wishes for herself, so I wish for her also.
Aww hon...this just breaks my heart to hear what you have gone through..but oh my what courage you have hon!! Not only to confront these stories but to put it out there!! Sometimes just saying it and getting it out there is a wonderful start to breaking that rule in your head!!
Whoot hon.....I am wishing so hard for you hon! Hugs, Sarah

ABCcreativity said...

oh i love this!
(i am a new thought practitioner)
as sulwyn wishes for herself, so i wish for her also!

Tim King said...

Sulwyn, I wrestle with some of the same issues myself, as I wrestle with my responses to my circumstances, trying to stay out of depression.

As Sulwyn wishes for herself, so I wish with her also.

-TimK

Bombshell BLISS said...

As Sulwyn wishes for herself, I wish for her in abundance as well.

Been there, done that my dear. Forge ahead!

Ginny said...

As Sulwyn wishes for herself, I wish for her as well. I truly admire all that you are doing in the pursuit of who you truly are. Thank you for sharing so much with us.

Librarian Lee said...

Oh yes...I don't deserve, I must earn...I wish we could have tea...As Sulwyn wishes for herself, so I wish for her also.

Alisha said...

I think I should have cut and pasted your rules into my own post.

As Sulwyn wishes for herself, so I wish for her also.

Karen D said...

As Sulwyn wishes for herself, so I wish for her also. Paralayzing perfectionism, I have been there and I hope we both find our way out, may it be.

Lucy Ladham-Dyment said...

As Sulwyn wishes for herself, so I wish for her also...

Break the Paralyzing perfectionism trait.

Jamie Ridler said...

As Sulwyn wishes for herself, so I wish for her also.

I'm imagining the old rules being washed away, easily, simply, lovingly and the new rules, loving, supportive rules made by Sulwyn, taking their place.

Sherri said...

These are some tough rules you are breaking and making for yourself. Perfectionism need not control you. Lots of good wishes for you on this path. As Sulwyn wishes for herself, so I wish for her also.

Kim said...

Oh wow! I heard myself if the part about keeping house...thanks for that! So good to know I'm not alone in that.

As Sulwyn wishes for herself, so do I wish for her as well.

Beverley Baird said...

As Sulwyn wishes for herself, so I wish for her also.

Rochelle said...

Self-doubt - yup that's my biggest story-line that I'd like to lose too! As Sulwyn wishes for herself, so I wish for her as well!

Julie Jordan Scott said...

wow, so many wishcasts are taken from my own heart and soul, including yours dear Sulwyn.

Wowza wowza wowza. (No wonder it took me so long to get around to them all!)

As Sulwyn wishes for herself, so I wish for her (and alongside her) also!

This is My Wishcast!